Two sides to every story. In this case, two sides to every tweet and post. Recently, a photo was posted showing two lollipops. One, unwrapped and one wrapped covered and clean. The lollipop unwrapped had bugs flying on it and around it making the lollipop look dirty and unappealing. The covered lollipop looked presentable, clean and what appears to be flawless. As if it’s perfect without any sort of distortion. Would be a good advertisement for lollipops to make sure to always buy them wrapped or else it would be foul, but for women? Yeah… The heading read ‘HIJAB, which one will you choose?’– of course I got infuriated. I’ve seen this picture before but what really bothered me were the young girls and boys agreeing with this photo. Do they really think this is accurate? That a women is an exact metaphor to candy wrapping? Being dirty just because she isn’t wearing a headscarf.
Some tweets were expressed by men saying, ‘well hijab is fard’ We know it is. It’s a must for every women once she is at the proper age and hits puberty. However it’s still a choice. Families may force some girls to wear it but still at the end of the day it should be a choice even if it isn’t for many girls. But really? A lollipop? The picture was outrageous and I’m sure maybe.. possible good intentions were behind this to show that a women covered is more appealing but men look at women covered or not. Maybe a women who isn’t modest wears revealing clothing gets more attention than one who wears the scarf but they both get attention. Men will stare if you’re even dressed from head to toe covered. So no, we Muslim women are not lollipops. In fact it’s insulting we aren’t object as much as people think we are human beings.
This leads to my next point:
Modesty isn’t just a headscarf. Modesty is a lifestyle in which you incorporate in your daily actions and rituals. How you speak as well as carry yourself live and eat discuss, and lastly what you wear. Modesty and purity begins within. Not ONLY does modesty have to do with women but men as well. Yes wow men need to be modest shocking huh? Many people have their own opinion depending on what they were raised and taught to believe modesty is, but it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right. We often tend to mix culture with religion. It’s a natural attribute it’s good because we can live doing custom daily things while staying true to our religion. Until, things get skewed and Islam is taken out of context and changed for people to choose what is right. Once again, lollipops are not in comparison to women.
I know many teens use social networking now a days so it’s obvious they are young and their minds are still growing but it doesn’t make what they write online about Islam true. In fact, it makes us seem very judgmental people. Islam isn’t this way. The people who express their beliefs who happen to also be Muslim need to remember someone is always reading and watching. We shouldn’t care but we are a minority. When women who wear hijab are told how pious they are and perfect Muslims it makes it seem we only love women who wear scarves. Islam loves women who are modest. Who show respect. Who do right and have good intentions. We must stop this process of it’s this way or no way at all.
Even if you think it’s merely a joke it truly isn’t. Social networking is public anyone can see your posts. Even if it’s private someone can screenshot and share and pow your thoughts are everywhere. Quotes like ‘think before you speak’ have now become think before you post in my opinion. Teens need a reality check especially when discussing religion because they just don’t know the regards to how serious these comments can be.